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My girlfriend’s kids think of me as a dad. (reddit.com)
My girlfriend and I have known each other for almost 2 years now. Dating for about a year and a bit. We’ve had our ups and downs, in like any other relationship. Me and her met when she was still married, but it was a very unhealthy marriage. Her and her ex-husband (husband at the time) slept in different rooms. He slept upstairs and she slept in the basement. They basically ignored each other and only talked to one another when it had to do with their kids or the kids wanted both parents to do something with them. He’s a very sick person. Narcissistic, abusive emotionally and verbally, a liar, a cheater and just about everything else. My girlfriend only married him cause she got pregnant with their son at 18. She thought it would be best if she and him got married for the kid. She never loved him. Another shitty thing is, for both kids, he raped her. He refused to use protection and she became pregnant. I don’t like her ex-husband at all. The things she has told me about him and what I’ve heard and seen by him, he’s a dirty little prick. Doesn’t care for anyone else but himself and that includes his son and daughter. I wouldn’t even call him a dad. He’s a terrible father. He only uses the kids for reputation. He doesn’t do much with his son because he’s older and won’t fall for his dads manipulative tactics. He’s figured out on his own that his dad cheated on my girlfriend (when they were married). His daughter, however is younger and a daddy’s girl. So he uses her mostly and can get anyway with anything cause she’s too young to understand what he’s doing. It’s sad and I bite my tongue every time she comes crying to me or/and my girlfriend when her dad does something to hurt her. I love my girlfriend’s kids. They are the most brightest, kind and loving kids I’ve ever met. They’re NOTHING like their dad and it’s a blessing. My girlfriend’s son, just the other day, walked an older woman across the street after school because cars wouldn’t slow down for her. I’ve spent a lot of time with her kids. Over the phone or when I’m there. It took awhile for them to start opening up but that’s understandable. Their parents were in the process of divorcing and it was a hard time for them. Me and my girlfriend also didn’t force them to talk or meet me, like their dad did with his new girlfriend which made both kids really uncomfortable. They came and talked to me on the phone eventually when they heard their mom talking to me. I’m a gamer, so is her son. Eventually, he asked his mom if he could add me on discord, all by himself. I was shocked and beyond happy. I was shocked because he seemed very iffy with his dads girlfriend. He didn’t like and didn’t make an effort to talk or bond with her. On the phone with my girlfriend one evening, her son came upstairs. He didn’t know me and her were chatting and he went and tells her, “Hey mom, I only just met Sam through phone and text messaging and I already like Sam way more than dads girlfriend.” That made me beyond happy and it made my girlfriend really happy too. Her daughter is a total sweetheart. Once she started hearing about me more often, she’d often join in on phone calls with me and her mom. Eventually me and her started our own inside jokes and stuff. Me and her bonded really fast. I eventually started chatting with her over google hangouts. Then she started opening up to me about how she felt sad and stuff for the divorce. Which I’m happy she feels comfortable with me cause she doesn’t open up easy, even towards her mom. Eventually, she started saying, “I love you.” To me. I said it back too. Eventually she started calling me dad or said I’m like a dad to her. Made me feel all warm inside. Just to see how much of a terrible father her dad is, one time I was on the phone with my girlfriend and her daughter. They were both talking about how her daughter was going for a sleepover at her friends house. I said, “Aw. I’m going to miss you.” She started crying and said, “That’s the nicest thing.” My heart hurt for her cause I know her dad doesn’t do that. One night, after she put her kids and bed and we said I love yous, me and my girlfriend went to bed. We lay there, cuddling with a movie on. She starts crying and I ask her what is wrong. She tells me that her ex never once put her or the kids first. He never spends time with her son and neglects both kids. She then said she was thankful for me. For spending time with the kids, her and helping with expenses cause she can’t work right now. Her ex never did that. I told her that I loved her and her beautiful kids. That they felt like my own and I would do anything for her and them. She cried harder and told me she never wants me to go and I told her I wasn’t ever planning on it. I plan to propose to my girlfriend soon. But I want her kids to be there. I want their blessing. I want them to be there when I purpose. I’m purposing to all three of them. To be a good step dad and a good husband. I love them and they love me too. submitted by /u/SamOLTS [link] [comments]