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My shameful secret and now I’m living with it. (reddit.com)
I was 19 years old, my then boyfriend (now husband) and I had recently moved to an apartment together with a roommate. I had been on birth control, but missed a couple days. We used a condom, but it broke and I got pregnant. We were in no position to take care of a baby. I had no money, no health insurance, nothing. I couldn’t afford to put a baby for adoption because I couldn’t afford a $10k + hospital bill, the hurt of handing a baby off, any of it. I was a new college student making minimum wage. We together chose to have an abortion, it set us back about $400, a few days of pain, and a lifetime of shame. I think it was the best decision for me, yes, but I still feel shame and told no one except my now husband. He went with me, and we drove 4 hours to the southern part of our state to make sure we didn’t run into anyone we knew. It’s still a secret, 6 years later. Now, with all of the pro-life/pro-choice debates going on everywhere, I see my Facebook and Twitter feeds full of posts about how evil people who get abortions are, how they are selfish and murderers and should go to jail. And I feel so embarrassed and hurt, and I wish I could tell them my story but I can’t, because these people just don’t understand how hard this decision is. It’s not a decision we made lightly, as a birth control plan. It’s not something we will ever do again, and we cried over it for days. submitted by /u/Nkjb2013 [link] [comments]